who decided it was a good idea to put louis and jake bugg on the same team who
but the description of Louis in Rio Ferdinand’s team sheet…
Rainbows and Love and Rainbows!!! T-shirts for St. Louis and Chicago.
Among the more disheartening reactions I’ve seen from fans about the prospect of Harry being in the closet is fans making it all about them. Oh, that means that you lied to me, I can’t forgive that. With zero acknowledgement of the reasons WHY someone who is queer would lie about their sexuality—the very reasonable fear of homophobia.
If you don’t understand how homophobia impacts queer people, you are part of the problem.
If you don’t understand why queer people would lie about their sexuality, you are part of the problem.
If you don’t understand how being closeted HURTS THE QUEER PEOPLE BEING CLOSETED, because they are forced to lie about themselves because of fear of homophobia, and they are forced to act as if there is something shameful about who they are, you are part of the problem.
If you don’t stop and think about what YOU can do to help create a better world in which people no longer feel the need to lie to protect themselves, and make sure you send a clear message to all that they are accepted and supported just as they are, you are part of the problem.
And if you try to turn a person being closeted into a crime done against you, YOU ARE THE FUCKING PROBLEM.
Anonymous said: Can you explain what's going on with Harry? I missed all of it and I'm so confused and omg PLEASEEEE explain too meee
Harry’s been on a roll:
- tthrowing shade in perfume interviews so hard he was literally taken out in the next one (turned out he wasn’t “feeling well”) (x)
- tweeting lyrics to a song called Secrets that basically says he’s passive aggressive and “so gay” and he doesn’t care if people know about his secrets (x / x)
- tweeting “shady warehouse” which is a very, um, not straight video (x)
- wearing a blue bandana when a fan thing said to wear bandanas in different colors depending what boy was their fav. Obviously blue was Louis’ color. (x)
- some more tweeting “It all comes out in the wash” (x)
- -not giving any fucks about what people think about him, quote “LONG HAIR DONT CARE” (x)
- giving thumbs up to people with rainbow/larry signs (x) (there’s more than this)
- wearing a Minnie Mouse bow during a show (x / x)
- taking the mic d (x)
- standing up for himself (x) but being nice about it (x)
- generally being unchill
basically harry’s cruising and it’s great. im sure there’s more, add stuff people
This is a trainwreck
but think about the fingering adventures the leeds bracelets have taken
DREAM BIGGER DARLING
FISTING: THE REAL REASON HARRY’S LEEDS BRACELET FELL APART
It becomes more and more clear to me why “straight passing privilege” rubs me completely the wrong way and why it’s not ‘oppressive’ or privileged of bi people to have a problem with that framework, and how directly erasive and contradictory it is to the reality of biphobia for a helluva lot of “straight passing” bisexuals.
You’re literally saying that one of the things which has [personally] hurt and affected me the most as a bi person is something I should be fucking thankful for when it’s actually a direct contributor to a lot of my internal suffering and severe sense of isolation. It makes dating really fucking daunting when being with someone of a gender that is considered “opposite” of your own (gender binarist hell), because it means you have to deal with even more direct, unapologetic aversion towards like, still being queer, from everyone.
It means erasure, more isolation, and people telling you that this “passing” is a good thing like it’s just a fact of life. No citations necessary, everyone just believes it. (Unlike, you know, anything a bi person tries to tell anyone about bisexual experience; and any citations given will be challenged and ‘debunked’ by a monosexual to settle cognitive dissonance.)
Oh, and then people assume you have the same dynamic as two straight people dating but that’s literally bullshit. And like, in my experience, being a bi girl and dating straight men fucking SUCKS because so many straight dudes constantly try to enforce a heteronormative ass dynamic onto you and then you have to deal with hypersexualization and invalidating controlling bullshit most of the time and just, I can’t even..
Being “straight passing” when you are not straight is not, and never will be, a privilege. It’s actually fucking awful because of asswipes like you who don’t even open up the opportunity for conversation about real shit cause you instead want to talk out of your unknowing ass about what “straight passing” entails. You actively deny us space to be heard and while also saying that, if we’re “really” bi, we’ll be “sexually available” to people of our gender lest we want to be read as/told we are “really straight.” Bisexuals aren’t allowed to reject anybody, and I’m not exaggerating: that is a straight up loud and clear message I’ve gotten from day one and continue to receive from people - especially folks on tumblr who are not bisexual but think they’re in a position to tell bisexuals anything about our “het relationships.”
The “straight passing privilege” talking point as it is applied is a bunch of gaslighting bullshit that plays into a lot of really gross, rape culture-y, coercive shit, and I’m done pretending that’s not the case. Let’s just be fucking honest, here.
I wish people would stop pretending this is some necessary ‘privilege’ to discuss when it’s ultimately just feeding grounds for biphobes to use as an excuse for their bi-hating bullshit. It’s about speaking over bisexuals and invalidating our identities. It’s a beat-around-the-bush way of saying we’re straight, and also a way of prioritizing monosexual queer perception of bisexual lives over that of the bisexual people actually living and experiencing those lives.
Yeah, sure, if you don’t visibly look queer to strangers in public then you don’t have to deal with the Queer Show being on display in that direct moment, but like the times you do end up in the position of being that person who is the “gay one” out in public doesn’t just magically shake off when people can’t tell you’re queer anymore. It just highlights a thing you’re still fucking shaken and shaped by and that’s not a goddamn privilege.
I know people have a hard time thinking that how a bisexual person feels about their experience actually counts as part of the experience of oppression but like, how we feel about our treatment actually does fucking count and our mental and physical well being is fucking important and I’m done with the subtle implications that we need to give you more than that to matter in the larger concept of “LGBT.” I’m not here to give you statistics you’ll dispute anyways and I’m not here to reassure you that a conversation about straight passing privilege is still important and whatever bullshit. Just no. How about, shut the fuck up, and stop talking about straight passing privilege until you can genuinely and compassionately listen to the people you’re accusing of having a privilege about their experiences.
Like, no - my experience of being “straight passing” meant constant torment from my peers and family, meant using my “straightness” as a way of denying my queerness to both myself and to others so that I could carry an intense amount of shame and unhealthy policing about my expressions. It meant teaching me to fucking hate myself for being bi, to teach me that I was “wrong” when I did things that resembled being queer (and, in LGBT spaces, “being straight”) and ultimately I was treated as though I was just a more desperate, attention seeking, “sexually available” version of a straight girl (wow the misogyny in even framing straight girls that way tho, like wow). Which meant I was easy prey for sexual and emotional abusers. Every man I met until my current partner was at least one of those things towards me - and every one of those men, except for my current partner, was/is straight.
I was coerced into an appearance that I could have the spoons to deal with the response to and any other expressions were shoved right in my face. The forced closeting has shaped my life in a painful way, and that’s not a fucking privilege. It’s not a privilege to suffer from this shit and have it manifest in the form of self harm and have your bisexuality used against you in a way that causes you to have no community, to need it so desperately that you’re willing to try and buy into this invalidating idea just for acceptance as a queer person.
EVERYONE STOP WHAT YOU ARE DOING AND READ. THIS. NOW.
Although this essay focuses on people who identify as bisexual and their erasure, I think it’s also very useful as a dissection of straight-passing privilege for people who don’t fit neatly into the “acceptably queer” mold.
Just in case you didn’t think that was badass enough: “Zheng He’s first voyage departed 11 July 1405, from Suzhou and consisted of a fleet of 317 ships holding almost 28,000 crewmen.”
Harry and Louis have had a LOT of days MIA this tour. Of the 67 non-concert days since April 25th (when the tour kicked off), there’s been 21 where HL were completely missing.
On top of that, there’s been 6 days where Louis was seen but Harry was MIA, and 23 days where Harry was seen but Louis was MIA. This includes 4 days where Harry was known to be in LA but Louis was MIA (July 28th - August 1st), two days where Louis was in the Bahamas but Harry was MIA (August 20th and 21st), and these past two days where Harry has been seen in Nashville but Louis is MIA.
All I’m saying is that they are really taking advantage of their time off, and obviously have a lot more freedom to do so and/or are demanding the time. I just glanced at the timeline from last year and it is SO different. On days off, Harry would always be with Cal, Lou or some random celeb/stunt or he’d be doing fan service with Niall. Louis would either be with Eleanor or another band member. There were very few days where HL were MIA at the same time (with the obvious exception of LA Week), and VERY few days where we would see all the other boys except for them.
2014 is hugely different from 2013 - no Eleanor, no Harry stunts, and HL are spending as much time together as possible in private. I’m just so happy for them and I can’t wait to see what happens next.